A recent survey revealed that older people living alone are more likely to be lonely and depressed. Don’t become a victim - create a new life and don’t be afraid to try new things. · The end of your marriage does not have to mean the end of your life. It may seem like it but it is just the end of one chapter of your life and the beginning of another. It is important that you focus on your future, not your past. · Get clear about what you want and set goals to reach. Write your goals down - they must be specific and realistic and you must write down when you will complete them by. You will find that your life is much more focussed when you have written goals.· Whilst it may feel ‘cleansing’ to complain about your ex to your friends, you don’t want to over extend their understanding and patience. If you are really having difficulty getting over it then seek professional help. It is also a good idea to make some new friends who did not know your ex.· Take up new hobbies and interests. Is there anything you have always wanted to do but never had the time? There are all sorts of clubs and classes you can join. There are gardening clubs, reading groups, sewing circles, dance classes or keep fit classes. Alternatively you could take up a new sport - why not learn how to play golf or tennis?· A great way of meeting people and doing something worthwhile at the same time is to volunteer. Hospitals and charities are always looking for people to contribute a few hours of their time. Annie O’NeillNew Horizons Divorce Coaching
This is going to sound like a cliché, and rightfully so, but trust is the cornerstone of every relationship. Without it, a relationship is full of misery and doomed to fail.
This is going to sound like a cliché, and rightfully so, but trust is the cornerstone of every relationship. Without it, a relationship is full of misery and doomed to fail. With extramarital affairs, divorce and failed relationships becoming more and more prevalent in today’s society, many people are becoming reluctant to place their faith in their partners. They view their partners with suspicion, while questioning their every word.
When you’re going through a divorce, we frequently experience our ex being defensive about his/her role in the divorce, when he or she might well have been the one who cheated! Let’s be sure we don’t assume blame that isn’t ours to bear.
What was the reason for your divorce? Lies, abuse, not in love any more, or my personal favorite, adultery? I’ll bet a dollar to your dime, if you’re reading this article, it was because of my personal favorite. Am I right? Oh, adultery is a bugaboo; it leaves you with horrid feelings. But wait! There’s good news behind this horror. It wasn’t your fault they cheated. It was their fault. They really need to work on their life at lot more than you do.
You think that because the hammer of divorce has knocked you upside your head, it’s shameful, painful, and a terrifying life that you’re stuck with. Wrong! You’re in the midst of a wonderful gift
Divorce can be a time of great challenge. Because of all the emotions it stirs up, it’s a lot like a fast stir of vegetable soup: all the veggies come up from the bottom and swirl helter skelter in the broth, round and round the whirlpool you’ve created. Divorce is like that. Round and round the whirlpool with nothing to hang on to, lots of advice (that you’d rather not listen to), and a great deal of insecurity and indecision.